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RT, I can’t tell you how much we are in sync! My husband and I were having a discussion last week about how I see my students as adults, as part of my group of peers, friends many, but definitely not as kids or only students! That is why I think I have such a special relationship with them — they see my as a teacher but more than that they see me as a peer and a friend too – well, most of them do anyway. I think it is easy for me to do that because I don’t have any children so I have no reference point to think of them as anything but other people I have known (like co-workers) who are young. I’m not sure how I am able to “get” them to see me as not “the” teacher but “a” teacher as they all are teachers too but I think it has to do with some of the following: I don’t ask them and really actively resist them calling me Dr. or Professor – I explain I don’t want to reinforce that hiearchy or the separation between me and them; I talk to them about personal events just as I share with others, I am, with them, pretty much how I am with everyone — just myself. Sometimes I have to remind them that even though that is the case, they have responsibilities but it is responsibilty to their own education not so much to me though I also do have us clearly agree to do things and then I expect them to do what they tell me they will do but not because I’m the teacher but because person to person we have an agreement. But, yes, it would be “easier” sometimes to just see them as students because it wouldn’t take so much energy to just be the teacher who talked at them and I could just let them fail much easier but I did try that when I first came here in an effort to be more traditional and I was miserable so I went into class one day and said, “Okay, I’m reallly not DR XYZ, I’m really FIRSTNAME.” And, went back to my regular teaching style and I started loving going to class again. And, they started loving coming. I won’t ever capitulate to the status quo again.

schan1 said in April 17th, 2009 at 10:21

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